Thursday, September 17, 2009

Alright, I got the message

So once again, here I am facing my most enduring public. Aw crap, you thought I was going to writing about my craziness? No, not this time. I'm back to my normal sane self again, maybe. I will see when my meds run out. Oh please, I'm not on meds. Well not for that at least. The ones I am on, I'm trying to get those reduced or get off them all together by dieting and exercise.

I will discuss one thing though. Back in August, my mom passed out and my brother called the emergency service and had her transported to the hospital for which they kept her a few days for evaluation. Now I won't say that this is a big problem with me but it is. I'll get to that later. This isn't the first time something like this has happened. As a matter of fact, this is at least the third time in the past year or two that I have been made aware of it.

The first incident happened, my mom was sitting in church enjoying the service. They thought she had fainted but they were having problems reviving her with smelling salts. They called the paramedics and she was transported to the hospital for which they kept her for an extended period and then let her go home.

The next incident happened during a family gathering. She once again fainted and attempts to wake her where futile. They called the EMT's and they promptly took her to the hospital. When she was released from the hospital, I called her to get an update to find out that she was having problems with her Doctor not refilling her medications. I told her she needed to find another Doctor because the outcome of the first incident was result of being over-stressed and over-medicated. This Doctor didn't want to acknowledge the hospital's recommendations. I'll address the stress part later.

She further told me that she was not getting any help from family members who were staying in her home. My younger sister and her twin sibling were of no help and pushed the problem on my brothers daughter who is barely able to handle her own issues. I had a fit. I even threatened to move back home. That ain't gonna happen. Seems as though, all my siblings are dumping their children and grand children on my mother when they feel damn inclined to do so. I'm talking infants to teens. Don't get me wrong but I think my mother raised her children. She does not need to raise anymore. I can see them stopping by occasionally for a visit but they come and stay for days and that means my mother has to feed them, make sure they have clean clothes, get them up for school, you know the drill. WTF? Am I to understand that when you get tired of raising your children, you can dump them on mom? They had no answers and refused to call me about any other problems.

The last incident happened, I didn't get a call. I found out about it after the fact when my brother posted it in Facebook. WTFF? I do have a phone and it is on 24/7. Granted, I'm online most of the time. But this is not the way you contact someone about your mother being taken to the hospital. Of course, this made me furious and when I get that mad, well watch out. But I held it in, add this to me just coming out of surgery for a torn meniscus and my emotional meter just red lined. Once again, I held it in. Before the end of August, the shit hit the fan and I had had enough of their issues.

I would like to say that my mom's issues are resolved but that's only temporary. She finally got to another Doctor and they have adjusted her medicines to a more agreeable level for her health's concern. My biggest concern is the family is not listening to her. She has said that she frequently has these spells but she goes and lays down and she feels better after she has had a short rest. I asked her if she told the doctor about this. She said she didn't think it was a problem since she felt better after resting. I told her I beg to differ. This is not normal behavior and she need to let the doctor know about. So, I am waiting to hear back on what the doctor had to say about this symptom.


Evil Twin's Wife said...

It's tough to have aging parents and also have sibling(s) who are do-less. I feel your pain. I went through the same thing with my mom about 4 years ago until she passed away. My bro and his wife did nothing. I was 6 mos into a high risk pregnancy and I'm the one who took her grocery shopping every week, I'm the one who took her to her doctor's appointments, etc. etc. I could go on, but it would be another blog of its' own!

The Dish said...

Why is it that it always seems like the offspring that is the farthest away is the one who does the lion's share of the work? And you are right, she has raised her kids and should not have to raise her grandkids. And that is a symptom that DEFINITELY needs to be brought to the doctor's attention! Hope she feels better soon and they get everything leveled out for her!

Jason said...

Hope your mother feels better soon, brother. Sucks that you're end up having to step in as the responsible one, but I guess someone has to do it.

Christine said...

I would advice you to take a couple of days, make a long visit and take her to the doctors she needs to see armed with the information they need to know.

Sad that no one else can be counted upon to do this.

Libby said...

SR, you need to try to go with her to the dr, & even another one, if this one doesnt do the job!! i'm GLAD that you're there! and maybe you should stay with her to kick some ass around there! sorry!

Warped Mind of Ron said...

Sorry you mom is feeling ill and your siblings are not fulfilling their obligation as children to your mother. At the very least I would get a hold of the Dr by phone or Email to make sure they get the facts. Sad that the child furthest away seems to be the one caring the most. Hope she feels better soon!

Jay said...

That's a tough situation. Sounds like you need to talk to some people about taking a little responsibility and realizing that your mother isn't there to be their babysitter and chief cook and bottle washer. In fact, they need to be taking care of her now, rather than the other way around!